How to have a healthy sex life
Sex is great. It’s a deep expression of how you feel about another person - and it feels good too. But, like everything, it has downsides. The closeness that makes sex so special for us means it’s also a great chance for bacteria and viruses to get out and infect new people. The figures on sexually transmitted infections (STIs) can make for some scary reading, but some simple precautions can keep you safe, healthy and loved-up.
Are STIs a big problem?
There are 25 different types of STI, including, but not only:
- HIV – possibly the most scary STI, HIV (the human immunodeficiency virus) eventually destroys the body’s ability to fight off infections. Although this process can be slowed down by modern drugs, it is terminal
- Chlamydia - Chlamydia is known as the ‘silent disease’ because in nearly three quarters of people, it presents no symptoms. It can be easily treated with antibiotics, but if it’s not it can cause infertility and all manner of nasty things. It’s estimate that 1 in 10 16-24 year olds are infected with Chlamydia.
- Genital warts – Genital warts or herpes is the most common sexually transmitted infection in the UK. Warts can be removed in a variety of ways, although the virus that causes them cannot be.
But I trust my partner..
This is where the maths comes in. Most 14-16 year olds are not having sex. If they are having sex, it will be with one of their first partners. But there’s still a risk of catching an STI no matter how few people you have slept with.
Let’s say Alicia is seeing Bashir, who has only had sex twice, with two other people. She knows Bashir is sensible and only had sex with these people because he thought it was safe. But she has to trust that Bashir’s previous partner was also sensible with all her partners. If Alicia has unprotected sex with Bashir, she is relying on the good judgement, and good luck, of all his previous partners, his previous partners’ partners, and so on. If we assume that each person has had sex with only two other people, we can draw the situation like this:
This shows that Bashir has two connections, they each have two other connections, and in the end Alicia is trusting her health to 4 people she doesn’t know! And that’s just going back two stages – for every stage you go back the number of people who could be infected doubles.
This pattern of doubling carries on until the people at the ‘branches’ of the ‘tree’ are all virgins. This is indicated by the variable x in the chart. x will vary for different people, but if it’s anything bigger than zero Alicia is running a risk! Also, bear in mind we’re just using 2 as a rough figure here. Not everyone is honest about their number of previous partners…
However, it’s not all bad. At this age 70% of teenagers report using a condom, so Alicia only needs to worry about the sexual health of 30% of Bashir’s indirect partners: she’s only relying on 30% of those 2x people to have been lucky.
What can I do?
If used properly condoms and dental dams (the equivalent protection for oral sex on women) are 99% effective at preventing the transmission of STIs. They are available free from a sexual health clinic, who will guarantee your anonymity. They can also advise you on other types of contraception and check you for STIs if you are worried.
However, if you want to be sure of being safe, use a condom every time you engage in sexual activity. Then the only people involved in your sexual relationship are you and your partner.
Please be advised that the legal age of consent in the UK is 16 years of age.
Date Published: April 30, 2012